One beautiful morning, I went out to do my normal jogging but this day I decided to go to the stadium near where I live. While doing my exercise, I noticed a guy sitting on the stairs just opposite me. He was playing music with his small radio so loud and pacing up and down. His behavior was somehow odd.
I continued doing my exercise and at the same time watching him. With the way he was behaving, I was somehow convinced that everything might not be ok with him. Though I was scared, but I knew that I will not forgive myself if I do not at least try to chat with this guy. Maybe that is his character or maybe something is wrong or maybe he just needs someone to talk to.
Many people came in jogged and left. Everybody minding his business without even noticing his presence even with the high music he was playing and pacing up and down just on his own. We all mind our business. We do not check with our neighbors, friends, or families.
We do not have to know someone before asking how the person feels. A suicide survivor said if on his way to go and commit suicide by jumping off the bridge, someone has spoken a kind word to him, maybe he wouldn’t have jumped off the bridge but luckily for him, he was served after making his jump by fishermen. There are many who were not as lucky as he was.
So coming back to this guy, I stopped my jogging and went beside him pretending to be resting, and then I started communication with him. He sat down and started charting with me. We charted for a long time and I made sure that I went around the main topics that I actually wanted to know, Like work, accommodation, friends, family, and his state of mind.
After our discussion, I saw a different person, calm, happy, and more relaxed. And he said, “Thank you”. I am not a phycologist. So I cannot say what that “thank you” was all about. But the only thing I know is that if he was planning something bad before, like committing suicide, he didn’t do it because I see him sometimes while driving by.
Most of the time, what some people need to rethink or to stop from doing something bad they want to do, is just a kind word from someone. I also found out that no matter what our position in life is, we can still help people along the way. You don’t have to be a saint to help someone.
Suicide is not the answer, because what you are going through today might be the experience that someone needs in the future to keep them from committing suicide or giving up on life. And being able to really help someone when you survive this, will surely be a source of joy to you.
There is a great joy, a wonderful future, and a bright light at the end of the tunnel for you in this life if you just persist a little longer. It is these hard and difficult times, these trials of life, that prepare us for what we have to do in the future.
Unfortunately, many people commit suicide, not knowing that they could help someone else with their wisdom and experience of having been in that situation, too. The best thing to do is talking about it, even if it’s you talking to a stranger.
Many people try taking anti-depressants to deal with their problems, it’s ok but personally, the best way to face this problem is to talk to people you trust, families, friends and sometimes most people are more at ease talking with strangers, to someone that will not judge them.
When someone is in a depressive state, the perspective from which they look at the situations is defined by that pain. For that reason, things seem hopeless. The best thing to do as I said before is to talk to someone, vent out their anger on someone who will listen, and not be judgemental. Even if this person is a stranger.
You need to know that tomorrow is another day, a wonderful new day. The sun will rise, the birds will sing, and you will be stronger. Then you will be in the best position to help someone else survive that pivotal moment when life isn’t in the balance.
We all have a purpose in life. It just takes some of us a long time to find what that is. You need to stay alive to find out your purpose in life. There is enough love going around but there are still millions of people in this world who feel like they have no one who loves them.
NO!!! That you have not met that love, doesn’t mean that it will not get to you. It might just be around the corner. Just keep living and striving and that compassion, that love you desire will find you.
If you really look around, you’d be surprised to know how many people who are walking around happy today, that have at least once, considered killing themselves. This moment now is but a tiny part of your wonderful journey of life ahead.
Someone out there is looking for you, someone out there needs your love. Do not deny him/her your love. Talk to someone when you feel depressed because we all need someone to lean on.